Journey of a Swingle guy

Having become single later in my life, and finding this lifestyle, one thing that continually frustrates me is the assumption that women become less attractive as they get older…

I have recently become to realise – not having lived as a woman – that by the time a lady reaches her 50’s, she’s been subjected to well over 4 decades of societal pressure to condition her…

Billions & billions of dollars have been spent to convince you through advertising, movies, TV & popular culture what society finds ‘pretty’…

Entire industries have been set up to profit on produced insecurities…

She’s been bombarded with messages, from a very young age – to enforce the idea that her worth as a woman – as a human being – is directly dependent on her physical attractiveness… a very narrow set of arbitrary rules determined by a handful of people who directly profit from it…

Woman have been taught be fine with being sexualised in all aspects of society – except for their own acceptance of their desires…

As a result of this, women have been, well, fucked up well & truly!!!
When – they should just be well fucked!!! (See what I did there? 🤣)

They don’t feel attractive, they often don’t feel comfortable with their sexuality – because there been told over & over & over again that they’re too old, too fat, for men to ever find them sexy…

Well, fuck that I say!!!

I won’t pretend to talk for ALL men (not ALL men 🤣😅), but I can say with 100% sincerity that what I find sexy, as a 54yr old man, has changed immensely over the years…

And don’t forget that men have also been bombarded with those same images and been told what we SHOULD find attractive… Porn is jam-packed with fake blondes with fake books & even faker smiles…and it does take some effort to shake ourselves of this outlook..

And sadly not all men can & do…

But some of us do.

We grow.

We evolve.

We understand that there is more to a women than a dress size…

We may have met some really conventionally attractive people & recognised that so many of them are extremely shallow & vacuous… Surprisingly, it seems that a flat stomach & tight skin doesn’t always equate to a good-hearted & empathetic person…

Again – somewhat surprisingly – it turns out that beauty doesn’t fit a rather narrow standard, and that beauty is subjective.. It means different things to different people…

‘Sexy’ isn’t a number – it’s a feeling, a way of being…

If you’ve ever been to a Burlesque show – you’ll understand what I’m saying…

A lot of Burlesque dancer’s are NOT skinny, size 6 swimwear models…

But are they sexy? Fuck yeah they are!!! And they know it – which makes them more sexier!!!

So – this is for all you lovely, sexy wonderful women out there with real bodies:
Please, please PLEASE!!!

SHOW US THE RESPECT AS MEN TO LIKE WHAT WE LIKE…

We know you don’t like the muffin top, or the way your thighs goes when you sit down..
But do you know something?
We DONT CARE ABOUT THAT… Most of the time we don’t even see it…

You see what you think are your flaws, we see the beauty that shines within…
The glint in your eyes…
The way your nose crinkles when you smile…
The way your bum looks when you bend over to pick something up from the floor!

Let us like what we Like… 😊

Beauty is not only just Not skin-deep – but a combination of so many different things!!