Journey of a Swingle guy

I recently passed a milestone – 4 years since I attended my 1st ever Swingers Party…

Which meant it was about 4 & a half years, roughly, since I discovered the lifestyle…

I’ve been thinking of what I have learned in that time – and how its changed the way I look at life…

Before any of this, I was married for nearly 30yrs… very vanilla, very monogamous… I sort of knew about swinging, and all that stuff – but that was for “other people”… not me…

I even worked in an Adult Shop for a year, and saw all the magazines & movies, etc…

When I separated from my wife (or – more accurately when she separated from ME!, lol) there wasn’t a conscious intent to get into the lifestyle  – again – it was for ‘other people’ – definitely not for blokes like me!

It was something that sort of happened organically… You meet one person, then another, and then pretty soon you’re naked in a motel room with a dozen strangers!

One thing that I soon realised was how open & honest swingers can be about topics that normal people don’t really talk about… Consent, for example…

I knew what it was of course…but it hadn’t really been a thing I’d given much thought about…

Being married, I’d gotten very used being knocked back – especially in the later years…

If the ol’ ball & chain wasn’t in the mood – then it wasn’t happening… pure & simple…

But it was never a topic of conversation – we never talked about it…

But fast forward & I’m in the lifestyle & we’re talking about it ALL the time…

Every party you go to, every interaction you have it’s an integral part of the discussion…

And its fucking fantastic!!!

One thing that really surprised me was how sexy I find Consent – and talking about it – especially with a prospective partner!!

Oh, how stimulating it is – talking with someone about what you would like to do with them – and what they want to do back, and how done to them…🤤🤤🤤🤤

Its definitely a fun part of foreplay!!

I’ve heard some guys complain that its ‘limiting’ or it’s ‘dry & a mood-killer’ – but I don’t get that at all…

You’re engaging with a woman (or couple, as the case may be) and finding out what they like & don’t like…what they want & what they don’t… could it get more sexy?? Talking about where you’re going to put your bits?

Trust me guys – if you get to a point where a woman is telling you what she likes (and where!!) you need to listen!!

Put your own needs aside for a bit, and listen to her words…

For her words will light a path to Heaven…If you only know when to ask and when to shut up!!

I want to discuss Consent in further detail – but I’ll save that for its own post I think…